Top
Reason Season or Lifetime

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to...

People come into your life for...

Read More
Angry

Angry

What do you do when you’re angry with someone? I keep it all inside. But it doesn’t stay inside. It releases physically via headaches, stomach troubles, breaking out skin. Some bottle up the anger & then let it all out in an explosive manner. Or don’t bottle it up at all and explode right away, a short fuse. Have you been given the silent treatment or cold shoulder? Are you constantly nagging someone to do something? Maybe your innocent and experienced misdirected anger. Anger can be taken out on something or someone else. Punishment rather than resolve. Anger can take many forms.  Think about it and recognize if any of the forms above seem familiar in how you handle it or in how others have shown their anger towards you. Featured Image...

What do you do when you’re a...

Read More
ANGER

Style of Anger

Withholding - lets others know how you feel by not speaking to or ignoring them, but it tends to provoke anger in return, thus creating a vicious cycle.  It is self-defeating b/c you waste your own time & energy. Somatizing - is anger formed into physical manifestations such as tension, ulcers, high blood pressure, headaches, depression, etc. Turning Against Yourself - is avoiding confrontation with those who frustrate you.  You express anger by directing it inward.  You take out your frustrations on yourself or feel its your fault. Passivity - while viewed by some as a virtue, is really a kind of over-inhibition that thwarts your own self-interest.  You keep resentments to yourself. Exploding - is too direct/aggressive.  It usually causes more harm than...

Withholding - lets others know...

Read More
CONFLICT IN RELATIONSHIPS

Work on a Marriage

Marriage only works if you work at it. So here are three principles for strengthening yours: (1)  Become a good listener.  "Consider carefully how you listen" (LK 8:18).  Sometimes the most important thing in communicating with your mate is to hear what is not being said, learn to read between the lines.  Just "being there" isn't enough; your mate needs to feel heard and validated.  When they are, they'll open up and accept what you have to say. (2)  "Speak the truth in love" (Eph 4:15 NLT).  Nobody likes to be corrected, but when someone is headed down the wrong road, love will "get in your face."  Our marriages break down when truth is violated, integrity is forsaken, trust is broken, manipulation is...

Marriage only works if you wor...

Read More
RESENTMENT

Resentment

"How do we get rid of resentment?  We know and are very aware of just how unhealthy it is, yet we still allow our minds to have those feelings.  We know it stops us from growing, yet we still allow ourselves to carry resentment towards others.  When we hold resentment we do not allow ourselves to forgive. Getting rid of resentment is one of the toughest things I feel I battle on a daily basis and one of the toughest things I personally have had to continually work on because it is detrimental to myself and no one else.  However, being very much aware of that, I still allow myself to resent and not forget the hurt caused by others.  How...

"How do we get rid of resentme...

Read More
HARD TO SAY NO

Hard to say NO

"Why is it so hard to say  no?  What are we so afraid of ?  Is it rejection?  Judgement?  Being analyzed?  Could it be just our perception?  Sometimes we have to learn the word "NO" without feeling guilt.  Being honest with one self is the most important thing for personal growth.  You grow when you are put in uncomfortable situations and are able to answer honestly without carrying that weight called guilt.  It takes time, however it is very much necessary for our own well-being . We need to realize that there is nothing wrong with the word "NO" and how you may feel by adding it to your vocabulary, how much it may truly help ourselves grow.  This may...

"Why is it so hard to say  no...

Read More
DISAPPOINTMENT

A Friend

"Why do we lose friendships?  Why do things have to get so complicated sometimes? I always envisioned this unconditional love by those who have been in, and touched my life in so many different ways, for such a long period of time.  Was I mistaken?  Was my perception totally off?  Were my expectations set so high that I was let down?  The confusion can be overwhelming.  If it is enough...

"Why do we lose friendships? ...

Read More
EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Puppets of Emotional Abuse

"I'm not saying it's gonna be easy, but I don't think you can carry on like this. I mean, you can. Of course you can, but it has a price. I think sometimes we just have to risk it. Live the way we feel. And you know, it might not turn out well...

"I'm not saying it's gonna be ...

Read More
CONFRONTATION

Confrontation

Avoiding confrontation can be so hard sometimes.  When your heart believes something so deeply, how do you express it without the confrontation?  When the other person feels differently, is there a right or wrong answer?  Do you just learn to "agree to disagree?"  How about when you put yourself in a vulnerable situation and you get no response, and it is not the first time this happens ...

Avoiding confrontation can be ...

Read More