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Leaves on a Stream

Mindfulness Exercise (1) Sit in a comfortable position and either close your eyes or rest them gently on a fixed spot in the room. (2) Visualize yourself sitting beside a gently flowing stream with leaves floating along the surface of the water. Pause 10 seconds. (3) For the next few minutes, take each thought that enters your mind and place it on a leaf… let it float by.  Do this with each thought – pleasurable, painful, or neutral.  Even if you have joyous or enthusiastic thoughts, place them on a leaf and let them float by. (4) If your thoughts momentarily stop, continue to watch the stream.  Sooner or later, your thoughts will start up again.  Pause 20 seconds. (5) Allow the stream to flow at its own pace.  Don’t try...

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mindfulness works

Mindfulness Works

Imagine a chair in front of you.  You try to push it but there is a person on the other side holding it strong so it won't budge.  That is how life is without mindfulness.  You keep pushing and pushing and all you see is the chair and the hands holding it. Imagine the person lets go and moves the chair to the side.  The chair is still in the room but all of a sudden it is no longer the only thing you can see.  You are able to look around the room. Mindfulness helps you to be in existence with your thoughts.  The chair is your thoughts.  ...

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CBT works like Prozac

CBT works like Prozac

In a study by Dr. Lewis Baxter at the U.C.L.A. School of Medicine, patients with OCD who responded to either a reuptake inhibitor like Prozac or cognitive behavior therapy over 10 weeks showed virtually the same changes in their brains, decreases in the activities of the caudate nuclei and, thus, changes toward normal function. When patients improved, the changes in their brains, as shown in the PET scans, looked the same regardless of whether they had received antidepressants or psychotherapy. The intriguing finding from the PET scans is not limited to OCD.  Two studies of patients with depression, reported last year in The Archives of General Psychiatry, compared the effects of interpersonal psychotherapy with an antidepressant on brain function, as observed in PET scans....

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Rules when in Recovery

Rules when in Recovery

I saw this in a tweet pic.  Great rules to live by once in recovery. Make peace with your past .. so it won't disturb your present What other people think of you .. is none of your business Time heals almost everything .. give it time No one is in charge .. of your happiness, except you Don't compare your life to others .. and don't judge them, you have no idea what their journey is all about Stop thinking too much .. it's alright not to know the answers, they will come to you when you least expect it Smile .. you don't own the problems in the world  ...

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Self Fulfilling Prophecy

Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior. 20th-century sociologist Robert K. Merton is credited with coining the expression "self-fulfilling prophecy" and formalizing its structure and consequences.  In his book Social Theory and Social Structure, Merton defines self-fulfilling prophecy in the following terms: e.g. when Roxanna falsely believes her marriage will fail, her fears of such failure actually cause the marriage to fail. The self-fulfilling prophecy is, in the beginning, a false definition of the situation evoking a new behaviour which makes the original false conception come 'true'.  This specious validity of the self-fulfilling prophecy perpetuates a reign of error.  For the prophet will cite the actual course of...

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Reason Season or Lifetime

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to...

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Dialectical

Dialectical

I'm learning DBT's (Dialectical behavior therapy) core purpose: Change thinking in black & white to gray. Mind your thinking into 2 words/phrases connected by 'and' in one sentence that contradict each other. "My life is chaotic and peaceful." "I went through hell and I survived." "I feel sad and know things will change." See that negative and positive can co-exist. Serenity is Peace among Chaos. ...

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wongbakerfaces.org

SUDS

A Subjective Units of Distress Scale (SUDS - also called a Subjective Units of Disturbance Scale) is a scale of 0 to 10 for measuring the subjective intensity of disturbance or distress currently experienced by an individual. The individual self assesses where they are on the scale. The SUD-level was developed by Joseph Wolpe in 1969. The SUDS may be used as a benchmark for a professional or observer to evaluate the progress of treatment. In desensitization-based therapies the patients' regular self assessments enable them to guide the clinician repeatedly as part of the therapeutic dialog. Used in EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing), TFT (Trauma-Focused Therapy), EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Anxiety Disorders and for research purposes. one version of the scale: 10 = Feels unbearably bad, beside yourself, out of control as in a nervous breakdown, overwhelmed,...

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Situation Thought Feeling Reaction

Situation → Thought → Feeling → Reaction

Situation → Thought → Feeling → Reaction My therapists is working on breaking down stories I express in our sessions. So I can begin to see how the thought leads to the feeling therefore reaction. & write a second scenario where my thought is different and see how the feeling and reaction change dramatically as result. Simple example to help understand the concept: Situation → Thought → Feeling → Reaction #1 Person said I look sick. → Person wants me to feel bad about myself. → Rejected. → Stopped talking to Person. #2 Person said I look sick. → Person is concerned/cares about me. → Curious. → Look in mirror.  Plan what to do to feel & look better. The second part of the assignment is to assign a cognitive distortion to the "thought" in example #1. In this...

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Cognitive Distortions

Cognitive Distortions

ALL OR NOTHING THINKING You see things in black and white.  Such as, all aspects of a project need to be completed immediately, or if your performance falls short of perfect, you see it as a total failure. OVERGENERALIZATION You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern. MENTAL FILTER You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively, so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened (like the drop of ink that discolors the entire bleaker of water). DISQUALIFYING THE POSITIVE You rejects positive experiences by insisting they "don't count" for some reason or other.  In this way, you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences. JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS You make a negative interpretation even though there are...

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projection

Projection

Psychological projection or projection bias is a psychological defense mechanism where a person subconsciously denies his or her own attributes, thoughts, and emotions, which are then ascribed to the outside world, usually to other people.  Thus, projection involves imagining or projecting the belief that others originate those feelings. Projection reduces anxiety by allowing the expression of the unwanted unconscious impulses or desires without letting the conscious mind recognize them. An example of this behavior might be blaming another for self failure.  The mind may avoid the discomfort of consciously admitting personal faults by keeping those feelings unconscious, and by redirecting libidinal satisfaction by attaching, or projecting, those same faults onto another person or object. I do not like another person.  But I have a value that says I should like everyone.  So I project onto them...

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Exposure Therapy

Exposure Therapy

Exposure Therapy - Intended to treat anxiety disorders and involves the exposure to the feared object or context without any danger in order to overcome their anxiety. The therapist identifies the cognitions, emotions and physiological arousal that accompany a fear-inducing stimulus, and attempts to break the pattern of escape that strengthens the fear response, through measured exposure to progressively stronger stimuli until habituation is reached. The technique involves the creation of steadily escalating steps or challenges that work towards a final goal representing a "non-phobic" response.  The patient voluntarily moves through the steps, with a means of terminating each step (under voluntary control). Exposure and Response Prevention -  A therapeutic effect is achieved as subjects confront their fears and discontinue their escape response.  (Practiced in treatment of...

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Mental Health APP

Mental Health APPS

I created charts to help myself while in therapy.  I've made these charts available for mental health professionals to download in hope to encourage a much needed rise in self-advocacy. In group therapy, you get pages and pages of loose-leaf paper on self-help topics but rarely a page to encourage writing or recording one's progress. Back to the topic at hand, Mental Health APPS. I soon began a search for APPS to transition tracking my progress in pencil to digital on my iphone. One of the best APPS I found is called  http://www.mymoodtracker.com by Aspyre Apps ($4.99 USD) Super easy to use and has evolved to include multiple tools: How you Feel (smiley faces) 1 - 10 Scale Pain Scale Energy Scale Medication Stimulants Sleep Charts and more The smiley faces on this APP inspired me to...

I created charts to help mysel...

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Impulse Control Therapy

Impulse Control Therapy

I was given a page called Stimulus Control Intervention recommending ways to intervene the Body Focused Repetitive Behavior.  I've added a few that apply to my situation.  Please comment new ideas I could add the list.  Hope this helps! General Remove tweezers, needles, safety pins, sharp objects from the house (& purse) If the behavior does not occur around a person, have the person present in situations when the behavior is likely to occur Mirrors Remove magnifying or lighted mirrors Remove small mirror from purse Cover mirrors on walls (in your home) Set a timer - to limit use of mirror to one minute Bedroom Only lie in bed when sleeping Lie in the bed only when you're ready to sleep Get out of bed as soon as you wake up Keep the...

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Habit Reversal Training

Habit Reversal Training

I'm learning how to manage Dermatillomania, an Impulse Control Disorder. My therapist says it's not about stopping the urge. The body is reacting / expressing a need and I am going to learn how to deal with it in a different way. Example, instead of allowing the urge be expressed via skin picking, the urge will be expressed by squeezing a toy, apply lotion, etc. (sounds weird, i know) Focus on creating healthy skin (hair, nails, etc.) and re-assign the impulse a new outlet.  http://store.trich.org sells various tools to help keep your hands busy. Spinner Ring (an outer band which manually spins freely around the inner ring) Snake Bracelet (bendable, flexible jewelry) Tangle (pivoting elbow joints that twist and turn to create a series of shapes and a...

I'm learning how to manage Der...

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Rewire Your Brain

Rewire Your Brain – Mindfulness

Some months ago I talked about the Vicious Cycle in treating forms of Depression. I learned that medication is effective in treating the most severe symptoms.  But it is intended as a band-aid while you work on the source of the illness. That begs the question, "What is the source?" Recently, my therapist shed some light ...

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In My Journal

In my Journal

A Psychiatric Nurse recommended I make an effort to write everyday in my journal: GOAL FEELING I AM THANKFUL FOR (List 5) Here's an example: Goal:  Stay focused on today only. Feeling:  Anxious I am thankful for the help I am receiving. I am thankful for my family. I am thankful for my friends. I am thankful for the air I breathe. I am thankful for the meal I ate. ☮♥☺...

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Perception

Perception

"Perception is the process of attaining awareness or understanding of the environment by organizing and interpreting sensory information.  All perception involves signals in the nervous system, which in turn result from physical stimulation of the sense organs.  For example, vision involves light striking the retinas of the eyes, smell is mediated by odor molecules and hearing involves pressure waves. Perception is not the passive receipt of these signals, but can be shaped by learning, memory and expectation." That being said. It really bothers me when I have something to express to my Therapist and their response is, "Well, that is how you perceive it." It sucks to hear but it's true.  But it's true for everyone. Maybe it's how you perceive what I so call "perceive".  I realize I'm being a smart ass. Regardless, it is important to acknowledge that perception is a factor...

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Coping

Coping

A flyer was given to us called, “Twelve Steps to Managing Depression” Be aware of the indicators that tell you that changes are needed. Know that anger can be uncovered and choices can be made regarding its purpose. Become committed to healthy boundaries and assertions. Believe in yourself. Know your worth and value as a person. Refuse to be perpetual victim of past and present abuse. Allow time for natural grief to run its course. Know that the best way to be in control is to resist the craving to be in control. Make allowance for painful truths. Understand how your personality can predispose you to depressive feelings. Be open-minded as you consider the medical aspects of depression. Reveal your struggles with thoughts about death. Allow others to know you thoroughly. Be...

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Passive Aggressive

Deal with People

PASSIVE COMMUNICATION is a style in which individuals have developed a pattern of avoiding expressing their opinions or feelings, protecting their rights, and identifying and meeting their needs. Passive communication is usually born of low self-esteem. These individuals believe: “I’m not worth taking care of.”  AGGRESSIVE COMMUNICATION is a style in which individuals express their feelings and opinions and advocate for their needs in a way that violates the rights of others. Thus, aggressive communicators are verbally and/or physically abusive. Aggressive communication is born of low self-esteem (often caused by past physical and/or emotional abuse), unhealed emotional wounds, and feelings of powerlessness. PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE COMMUNICATION is a style in which individuals appear passive on the surface but are really acting out anger in a subtle, indirect,...

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Tunnel Vision

Tunnel Vision

Cognitive Distortions Tunnel Vision:  Focus selectively on the negative details, to dwell on them and tune out positive aspects of a situation or yourself. All-or-None Thinking:  Jump to broad, over-generalized conclusions about yourself or reality. Negative Predictions:  Make highly negative, pessimistic predictions about the future, for which there is no evidence, and which result in increased despair and hopelessness. Jumping to Conclusions:  Conclude the worst in the absence of substantial evidence. Personalizing:  Assume that if something is wrong, you are at fault; an assumption that may not be accurate.  The point is that we cannot read each other's minds, and there is a strong tendency for people who feel depressed to overreact and personalize, especially when they fear criticism or rejection. "Should" Statements:  Insists that things should...

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Angry

Angry

What do you do when you’re angry with someone? I keep it all inside. But it doesn’t stay inside. It releases physically via headaches, stomach troubles, breaking out skin. Some bottle up the anger & then let it all out in an explosive manner. Or don’t bottle it up at all and explode right away, a short fuse. Have you been given the silent treatment or cold shoulder? Are you constantly nagging someone to do something? Maybe your innocent and experienced misdirected anger. Anger can be taken out on something or someone else. Punishment rather than resolve. Anger can take many forms.  Think about it and recognize if any of the forms above seem familiar in how you handle it or in how others have shown their anger towards you. Featured Image...

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Mindfullness

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present.  When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience. Mindfulness can involve: Bringing one’s complete attention to the present experience on a moment-to-moment basis. A nonelaborative, nonjudgmental, present-centered awareness in which each thought, feeling, or sensation that arises in the attentional field is acknowledged and accepted as it is. Conscious awareness of one's current thoughts, feelings, and surroundings.  An orientation that is characterized by curiosity, openness, and acceptance. Mindfulness is practiced in Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT), Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and others (etc.) This practice, inherited from...

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Neurotic

Rumination

Rumination is a way of responding to distress that involves repetitively focusing on the symptoms of distress, and on its possible causes and consequences. Rumination is similar to worry except rumination focuses on bad feelings and experiences from the past, whereas worry is concerned over potential bad events in the future. The tendency to ruminate is a stable constant over time and serves as a significant risk factor for clinical depression. Rumination is more common in people who are pessimistic, neurotic, and who have negative attributional styles. Neuroticism is an enduring tendency to experience negative emotional states.  Those who are neurotic respond more poorly to environmental stress, and are more likely to interpret ordinary situations as threatening, and minor frustrations as hopelessly difficult. Pessimism is a state of mind in which one perceives life negatively....

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Write in a Journal

Write in a Journal

“When people are given the opportunity to write about emotional upheavals, they often experience improved health,” Dr. James W. Pennebaker says. “They go to the doctor less. They have changes in immune function." Featured Images & Quoted from Source:  utexas.edu - Writing to Heal  Writing therapy is no doubt powerful.  It should be approached when ready and able to confront the situation.  That's the key. Dr. Pennebaker form of writing therapy is to target a painful event in one's life. Write for a specific (short) period of time and then let go.  Let go. Visit the provided link above to learn more about Dr. Penenbaker's "Writing to Heal". KnowMental has created a tool that encompasses the facets of treating/managing a mental illness.  A dedicated place for...

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Controlling

Low Self-Esteem, Controlling & in Denial

I felt a sense of relief to understand the numerous poor decisions made in my past relationships.  At the same time I felt anger and disbelief that this is who I've been for the majority of my life.  How did I get here?  Why am I like this? I'm still trying to figure it out, but at the end of the day all that matters is what is now, and how can I change it. As I learned more, I related more.  The CoDa patterns hit such a cord within me. "Denial Patterns:  I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.  I minimize, alter, deny how I truly feel.  I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others" DENIAL...

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BEHAVIOR

Thought – Behavior – Feeling

It easy to believe feelings comes first then the thoughts hence the behavior. ³I feel scared to take the test because ¹I might fail therefore ²I don't take the test. It's not true as much as it "feels" real to you. The truth is: THOUGHT → BEHAVIOR → FEELING I might Fail → I don't take the test → I feel scared The ¹thought of failing causes ²you to stop trying and leaves you left ³feeling fearful. There is a tiny widow, a 10 second window to confront the thought before acting on it.  No it's not easy, but is possible.  Begin with awareness.  Next time you begin to "feel" down try your hardest to stop and question.  Ask yourself, What is happening?  What am I thinking?  Why am I about...

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EMPTINESS

Self-Image

Self-image may consist of three types: Self image resulting from how the individual sees himself or herself. Self image resulting from how others see the individual. Self image resulting from how the individual perceives others see him or her. What controls or makes up your self-image? When I first learned I was dealing with major depression I immediately felt ashamed, didn't want anyone to know.  I allowed my self-image to be governed by the stigma of mental illness.  Add this to the emptiness and insecure feelings already in place b/c of the illness, and you have a recipe for a gigantic road block to wellness & recovery.  I now am chipping away the road block by learning the truth and letting ago of these false...

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COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a psychotherapeutic approach: a talking therapy.  CBT aims to solve problems concerning dysfunctional emotions, behaviors and cognitions through a goal-oriented, focus on the present. Psychotherapy, or personal counseling with a Psychotherapist, is an intentional interpersonal relationship used by trained psychotherapists to aid a client or patient in problems of living. It aims to increase the individual's sense of their own well-being.  Psychotherapists employ a range of techniques based on experiential relationship building, dialogue, communication and behavior change that are designed to improve the mental health of a client or patient, or to improve group relationships (such as in a family). CBT is effective for the treatment of a variety of problems, including mood, anxiety, personality, eating, substance abuse, and psychotic disorders. Different approaches utilized in CBT can include keeping a diary of significant events and associated feelings, thoughts...

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ANGER

Style of Anger

Withholding - lets others know how you feel by not speaking to or ignoring them, but it tends to provoke anger in return, thus creating a vicious cycle.  It is self-defeating b/c you waste your own time & energy. Somatizing - is anger formed into physical manifestations such as tension, ulcers, high blood pressure, headaches, depression, etc. Turning Against Yourself - is avoiding confrontation with those who frustrate you.  You express anger by directing it inward.  You take out your frustrations on yourself or feel its your fault. Passivity - while viewed by some as a virtue, is really a kind of over-inhibition that thwarts your own self-interest.  You keep resentments to yourself. Exploding - is too direct/aggressive.  It usually causes more harm than...

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HOW TO LET GO

Let Go

To "let go" does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To "let go" is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself. To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about. To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive. To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging...

To "let go" does not mean to s...

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BE POSITIVE

Wake Up

"Wake up, do not forgot that you are the sun that lights up the day of many lives.  Illuminate the day, as you only know how to." To find out what is happiness begins with waking up. Do the best you can every day. Personal growth takes time and will lead you there. Keep trying, do not give up. The light at the end of the tunnel will slowly shine brighter and brighter upon you. Quote Author: unknown ...

"Wake up, do not forgot that...

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AM I CO-DEPENDENT

Am I Co-Dependent?

I attended a Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDa) group hoping to better understand what it is to be Co-Dependent. Their pamphlet titled, "Am I Co-Dependent" helps you understand the cause rather than providing a definition. They recognize the long-standing destructive patterns of living that lay behind co-dependency. 1.  Denial - "I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicate to the well-being of others" 2. Low Self-Esteem - "I do not perceive myself as lovable or worthwhile human being" 3. Compliance - "I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or other's anger" 4. Control - "I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves" CoDA is a Fellowship of those who have difficulty in maintaining healthy, functional relationships with others. They have 12 steps to...

I attended a Co-Dependents Ano...

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MOTIVATION

Live For The Moment

Motivation to "Live for the Moment" go for long walks, indulge in hot baths, question your assumptions, be kind to yourself, live for the moment, loosen up, scream, curse the world, count your blessings, just let go, just be. "Quote" Image Source: Live For The Moment "Quote" Author: Carol Shields Featured Image Source...

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CONFLICT IN RELATIONSHIPS

Work on a Marriage

Marriage only works if you work at it. So here are three principles for strengthening yours: (1)  Become a good listener.  "Consider carefully how you listen" (LK 8:18).  Sometimes the most important thing in communicating with your mate is to hear what is not being said, learn to read between the lines.  Just "being there" isn't enough; your mate needs to feel heard and validated.  When they are, they'll open up and accept what you have to say. (2)  "Speak the truth in love" (Eph 4:15 NLT).  Nobody likes to be corrected, but when someone is headed down the wrong road, love will "get in your face."  Our marriages break down when truth is violated, integrity is forsaken, trust is broken, manipulation is...

Marriage only works if you wor...

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MOURNING

Mourning

bereave - "to deprive (of) something or someone valued." grief - "keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss; sharp sorrow; painful regret." mourn - "to feel or express sorrow or grief.  to grieve or lament for the dead." A loss of someone (or something) by death, betrayal, choice, theft, distance, punishment, natural disaster ...

bereave - "to deprive (of) ...

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RESENTMENT

Resentment

"How do we get rid of resentment?  We know and are very aware of just how unhealthy it is, yet we still allow our minds to have those feelings.  We know it stops us from growing, yet we still allow ourselves to carry resentment towards others.  When we hold resentment we do not allow ourselves to forgive. Getting rid of resentment is one of the toughest things I feel I battle on a daily basis and one of the toughest things I personally have had to continually work on because it is detrimental to myself and no one else.  However, being very much aware of that, I still allow myself to resent and not forget the hurt caused by others.  How...

"How do we get rid of resentme...

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HARD TO SAY NO

Hard to say NO

"Why is it so hard to say  no?  What are we so afraid of ?  Is it rejection?  Judgement?  Being analyzed?  Could it be just our perception?  Sometimes we have to learn the word "NO" without feeling guilt.  Being honest with one self is the most important thing for personal growth.  You grow when you are put in uncomfortable situations and are able to answer honestly without carrying that weight called guilt.  It takes time, however it is very much necessary for our own well-being . We need to realize that there is nothing wrong with the word "NO" and how you may feel by adding it to your vocabulary, how much it may truly help ourselves grow.  This may...

"Why is it so hard to say  no...

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YOUR SECRET

Your Secret

Watch the film FIRST ↑ "Let's make something different, together.  I really mean you, who are sitting watching this video and me, ok?  Let's think of something beautiful.  Not something you would buy.  Not something trendy.  Something cheerful and personal.  Something colorful.  Something important.  Something insignificant (maybe for others but not for you).  Like how excited you were by candies when you were a kid .  Like the smell of second hand books or something only you can see and this will be our secret.  Now, keep your eyes closed and think of this special thing until I've counted to 3.  If you're reading this, your eyes are now open.  Unless you've got some special power and can see things behind closed eyes or ...

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DISAPPOINTMENT

A Friend

"Why do we lose friendships?  Why do things have to get so complicated sometimes? I always envisioned this unconditional love by those who have been in, and touched my life in so many different ways, for such a long period of time.  Was I mistaken?  Was my perception totally off?  Were my expectations set so high that I was let down?  The confusion can be overwhelming.  If it is enough...

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EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Puppets of Emotional Abuse

"I'm not saying it's gonna be easy, but I don't think you can carry on like this. I mean, you can. Of course you can, but it has a price. I think sometimes we just have to risk it. Live the way we feel. And you know, it might not turn out well...

"I'm not saying it's gonna be ...

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AFFIRMATIONS

Affirmations

Affirmations? What is that you ask. Here are a couple of definitions: The act of affirming or the state of being affirmed A statement of the existence or truth of something; assertion It is a tool used in many ways: Attaining a frame of mind that currently does not exist but wish to attain. A way of attracting an emotion, state of being into your life. Attracting something or someone to exist in your life...

Affirmations? What is that yo...

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SELF CONTROL

Self Control

Self Control: 1. Stop 2. Think 3. What could happen 4. Is that what you want Before you say anything, ask yourself: Do I have to say it? Does it have to be said right now? Does it have to be said by me? Perception can play a big role in hurt feelings.  Is how you feel warranted?  Look at the evidence. ...

Self Control: 1. Stop 2. Thi...

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TO JOURNAL

To Journal

I need a quite place.  This is a wonderful way to journal your thoughts or simply escape from the moment and write. Ommwriter from hs&co on Vimeo. http://www.ommwriter.com/...

I need a quite place.  This i...

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CONFRONTATION

Confrontation

Avoiding confrontation can be so hard sometimes.  When your heart believes something so deeply, how do you express it without the confrontation?  When the other person feels differently, is there a right or wrong answer?  Do you just learn to "agree to disagree?"  How about when you put yourself in a vulnerable situation and you get no response, and it is not the first time this happens ...

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DEPRESSIONS

Laugh At Oneself

Below are works by Andre Jordan. Here are some of his doodles picked out from these websites: http://www.abeautifulrevolution.com and http://www.bbc.co.uk/ouch/play/ I related and laughed at so many of his doodles...

Below are works by Andre Jorda...

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WRITING GOALS

Writing Goals

Writing goals seems like a chore to me.  My head doesn’t want to go there.  I am happy to feel the lift of sadness, enjoying the still of my mind.  Afraid to enhance a moment that feels perfect.  But I know I have to keep moving forward.  Being still happy is as unproductive as being still sad.  So it is time to test the waters.  I’m floating now...

Writing goals seems like a cho...

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