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Personality Disorders

Personality Disorder

It's strange the word Disorder is attached to the word Personality. We want to believe our Personality shapes who we are. But from some, it may be a trait that feels uncontrolled and affects life experiences. I've read it described as: Set of enduring behavioral and mental traits that distinguish human beings Personality disorders are defined by experiences and behaviors that differ from societal norms and expectations. Appear to deviate from social expectations particularly in relating to other humans Hmmm.  Societal Norms...

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Rejection

Love and Hate

I found an intense Q & A that helps to unravel the extremes of idealization and devaluation (love and hate) in BPD.    I have quoted a part of Dr. Robert Saltzman's answer below: Borderline Personality Disorder is a kind of mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in self-image, in moods, in interpersonal relationships, and in behavior.  To take an example of this instability in relationships, a PBD type of person might at one moment regard a friend or loved one with great admiration, affection, and love, and then suddenly, without warning, switch over to an attitude of irrational disappointment, vehement anger, or even hatred.  When this switch occurs, the BPD person will accuse the friend or loved one (or the therapist) of...

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Up and Down in Life

BPD

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a complex and serious mental illness that is frequently underdiagnosed or misdiagnosed. The DSM IV-TR criteria for BPD includes: Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. [Not including suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5] A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., promiscuous sex, eating disorders, binge eating, substance abuse, reckless driving). [Again, not including suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5] Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats or self-injuring behavior such as cutting, interfering with the healing of scars (excoriation) or picking at oneself. Affective instability due...

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EMPATHY

Empathy

......., On Friday I felt incredibly low, a grim feeling geared mostly to myself.  It's a blessing and curse to feel like you live and exist for others.  Life should be lived and loved first for our own.  That is the goal.  The love that exists for your daughter and I for my siblings is not by chance or luck.  It exists as a the part of our hearts to hold on.  Holding on will one day open the rest of our hearts to make room for self-love.  The capability has to be there.  It's a matter of learning how to reach it. You talked about your inability to stand being alone.  As you know, it's not your fault.  It is a...

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BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Borderline Personality Disorder is a condition in which people have long-term patterns of unstable or turbulent emotions, such as feelings about themselves and others. These inner experiences often cause them to take impulsive actions and have chaotic relationships. People with BPD are often uncertain about their identity.  As a result, their interests and values may change rapidly. They also tend to see things in terms of extremes, such as either all good or all bad.  Their views of other people may change quickly.  A person who is looked up to one day may be looked down on the next day. These suddenly shifting feelings often lead to intense and unstable relationships. Other symptoms of BPD include: Fear of being abandoned Feelings of emptiness and boredom Frequent displays...

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